1Corinthians 13:7 (Love) “…believes all things…”
Can’t I just ‘tap out’ of this ‘love thing?’ from the commentaries, I get the message that believing all things means to believe others have good intentions. Let me be perfectly honest with you here. There is a life long relationship I’m dealing with that I have MUCH trouble in. I know the Holy Spirit is talking to me about this person. I don’t want to listen. Every time I get close to this person I am hurt deeply – not only by memories that are invoked but also by present meanness that they are so fluent in.
However they don’t get it. When I’ve talked with them about their bad behavior – trust me, I’ve confronted this person on many occasions – they ask me if I’m finished. There is NO remorse for past or current actions. Yet they want to pursue a relationship with me. They continue to be their bad self as they go through their miserable life throwing the love card at me. I do my best to stay away because the stress this relationship causes me actually adds to my physical decline.
Yes it is a BAD relationship. I learned from this relationship that “love” is a four letter word. I learned from this relationship that when others said they loved me, they only wanted to use, hurt or other wise abuse me. I learned from this relationship that love = hurt.
I literally refuse to answer calls from this person; my email is set to delete this person’s messages as soon as they hit my in box. Yes, I avoid this person at all costs for my own sanity and health.
I have spent most of my adult life recovering from this BAD relationship.
So how does love in the Godly term apply here? Would you, my dear readers, please help me with this?
Cee, (((hugs)) years ago you I was telling you that I was having problems with my next door neighbor and her 5 kids…the kids would come over hungry..I would feed them..Will never let a child go hungry..Their mom would go out drinking and leave the kids..She would tell the kids to come to me if they needed anything. She was taking advantage of me because I was a stay at home mom.. One weekend she asked me to watch her kids and I told her we had plans..She was going to hobo days and drink…she left anyways because she knew I would not go because of all the other times I would cancel…well I could not cancel this time and left..well one of the kids got hurt…We came home and the people of the home thought they were my kids…I explained to them that they belong next door…I was really upset that these kids got hurt. Well the mom chewed me out for leaving…she was drunk.. I felt as a child of God that I should not turn my back..God wouln’t turn His back on me…You sweetly told me that just because we are a child of God that it doesn’t say anywhere in the Bible we are to be taken advantage of…Just because your a child of God you do not have to deal with this hurt and your doign the right thing sweetie…blocking them out…if they come back at you with more hurtful things you need to stop taking all calls…maybe they will get the picture.. yes as Christians we can say no…remember that..Love you sweetie…Lisa
Cee, I am with you as is our Lord. Having stood where you are and with the ability to look back now at my decisions I can honestly say that while the need to make things better is still there, as time goes by I no longer beat myself up over those decisions. I know that it was those really hard and painful choices that have made me the person I am now, THE PERSON GOD INTENDED ME TO BE. Looking back now I only wish I had made the me choices that have given me back my life, health and sanity a little sooner. Then maybe my heart wouldn’t be held together by ducktape and the love of an innocent little baby. I am always here, no more than a phone call away. You are in my thoughts and prayers. My Love Always…Charity
Thank you Charity. Hug – I’m so glad you have that little adorable guy to help mend, tho!
Ah, yes, thank you for reminding me Lisa! Hug – I’m doing just that!